Contact is important
Well, I have finally received a letter from my incarcerated son. It’s has been two years since we have communicated.
He had sadly announced that he was giving up on his family. After all, we had let him sit in jail in another state. By not putting up a property bond in another state while he is on probation from his state. However, it is his right. He got the power of sending out that to agree to a visit form, that then it has to be approved. Your name must be on the list for even a video visit. Since this is how you can do it now from the comforts of your home.
Oh by the way, according to me, I do not remember drawing up a plan with him about what he was doing or if he got caught plan.
As for me, I feel that this is emotional bullying. Our children are not our Gods. They do not belong to us. This can be a very emotional time of one’s life, a life-changing one to be exact.
https://dailystoic.com/stoic-quotes/“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own…” – Epictetus
IN LIfe that you must take action for you can no longer stand still and let things just pass you by. Thinking that this attorney, whom I’ve paid will take care of my loved one or child. This for many is not today’s answer. Hiring an attorney and paying for an expert witness might be out of your budget. You have been forced to enter the field and must, now figure out the GAME and rules of the criminal justice system. Where your loved one/child/ren most likely will be charged and either spend time in jail or go to prison.
THIS IS WHERE TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF IS VITAL. I HAVE FOUND THAT BELONGING TO A support Group is a gift that one can give to their selves. Where You are not alone. You also get to grow as a person in learning about yourself, others, and the laws and rules of the criminal justice system.
Well, the table has turned and my son has forgiven us. I never gave up writing to him on the days that matter in his life. His birthday and the death of his father.
During the Pandemic please reach out to your loved ones. We never what is going on in their minds. Write or call do what you can. YOu must get on their list in order to receive any information about their well being.